Being lied to. In general. By anyone. Especially by someone whom I trust and/or feel somewhat close to.
I just don’t get it. You’re not going to get in trouble. It’s not like you’re going to hurt my feelings. I don’t understand why people lie. I get the lying to parents to get away with certain things but after a certain age the lying just to lie phase has to stop. And I feel like, especially for my peers, we passed that age a while ago. I never understand why friends lie to each other or keep things from each other. Whats the worst that can happen by saying the truth? Cuz I’ll tell you what will happen when I find out - I will not respect you. I won’t believe you ever again. I will ultimately be fine with no longer pursuing a friendship with you since you disrespected me enough to lie, in my face.
The thing too is when it’s about trivial shit. Like maybe if I thought you were trying to protect my feelings somehow I could kind of rationalize it in my head. You’ll suffer the same consequences, but at least I’ll kind of get why you did it. But small shit like why you can’t make it to something, or why you haven’t used something I gave you, or who you’re friends with… come on. At that point you just dont give a shit about my friendship so why should I?
And I’m not the kind of person thats like “oh it happened x amount of time ago and we’ve been close since so I can overlook it.” No. I’m the kind that finds it even more offensive that you continued to look me in the face after all that time, having no shame, after you lied.
I tell you, the quickest way to get me out of your life is to lie to me. Most of the time I’m really passive-aggressive and I really dont hold grudges but once I lose respect for you as a person, you may have very welll never existed. I will alwaus be cordial and civil. I’ll even still talk to you from time to time but our “friendship” will never be what it was.
Feeling stuck is the worst kind of feeling for a young (non)professional.
Your whole life you get boxed-in to being a student - something you really have no control over unless you dropout or are one of the rare oddities that enjoy learning for the simple joy of learning. At tender ages, you’re forced to make life changing decisions (I saw something the other day that read something to the effect of “asking 18 year olds to make important life decisions when a month ago they needed permission to go to the bathroom) - to decide what you want to do as a career, signing off on thousands of dollars in loans when you probably just opened your first bank account, most of the time having a taste of living away from home… One clumsily “figures” it all out, not withstanding of a few failures - wrong friendships, time spent enjoying college life instead of studying, failed tests, withdrawing from classes, things of that nature - to finally settle into what they actually want to do as a career, hopefully.
Then you graduate, go out and - BOOM!! - no job. Now you’ve just invested time and money into a career you can’t get started on right away because “there are no jobs,” “not enough experience”…
Meanwhile, you’re stuck. Waiting. And waiting. And waiting.
And they wonder what is wrong with the youth of today.
I dont want sex, i want the things that lead up to it. The slow kissing then the passionate kissing, then the pulling closer, the neck kisses, the grabbing, biting, heavy breathing, grinding, the pauses while you catch your breath, feeling each other. Oh my.
Then sex.unknown (via concio)